Low Self-Esteem is not a Life Sentence
      Can One Really Learn How to Build Confidence and Self Esteem? Is it possible to  learn how to build confidence and self esteem?   With determination and perseverance, the answer is a resounding ‘yes!’  I am living proof that having low self-esteem is not a life sentence! Symptoms of Low Self Esteem - What Does It Feel Like? For many, many years I was plagued with debilitating feelings of inadequacy - an all-encompassing belief that I was a flawed human being.  I was quite sure that there was something inherently wrong with me … that I was born with a deficit which I was powerless to change. Mistrusting of my ideas and opinions, I  kept them to myself and  felt like an  outsider watching the world go by without being a part of  anything. Making decisions was agonizing because I was sure I’d make the wrong choice. I could never say no to a request, and was convinced that if people knew the person  behind my smiling facade they would discover just how worthless I really was - and then disappear from my life.  So I lived in fear of exposure, envious of those who exuded confidence, and always aware of  a large, dark, empty whole inside of me - one that could never be filled. In short - I suffered from extremely low self-esteem. How Did it Happen? For so long, the cause of my low self-esteem eluded me.  Was I born that way?   Did I enter the world with low self-esteem?  Of course not (though at one time I would not have believed that).   Newborn infants have squeaky-clean slates - no hangups,  no lack of self confidence,  ...
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But I Love Him!
Excuses People Make to Stay in Abusive Relationships " … but I love him!” protests the woman whose husband has been knocking her around for the past three years  … “… but I love him!” wails the wife whose philandering spouse continues to profess his innocence, despite her proof to the contrary … “… but I still love him”  bemoans she whose hubby controls her every move -- her decisions, her friendships,  their finances -- and even their sex life … “…  I love him, but sometimes he’s mean to me” laments the lady whose paramour has perfected the art of criticizing, condemning and complaining about her every move – whether alone or in company … “…  but I love him!”   whines the woman whose partner mooches off her, changing jobs like he changes his underpants ... And the list goes on … Helloooo?!!  Wake up, ladies!!  (and gentlemen who see themselves in any one of these scenarios).  You love him?  Excuse me?  You call that love?? I'm tired of hearing people using   “… but I love him!”   as an excuse to avoid growing up. “This isn't love. It's something broken and ugly.I wanted it so badly I didn't care what it looks like" - Amanda  Grace The   “… but I love him!” syndrome has nothing to do with love.  Rather,  It is an expression of insecurity, fear, self-doubt and need.  The capacity for mature love emanates from one’s own inner security,   and the concomitant expectation that respectful treatment is a given …   that anything less is unacceptable. And by the way –  staying together  “ for the sake of the children”  is as much a cop-out as is the   “… ...
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