Lessons on Joy from a 3-year-old

Lessons on Joy from a 3-year-old

She wasn't a pretty baby. She had dark, round eyes like saucers - much too big for her little face - and a full head of dark brown hair that spiked upwards and outwards - like porcupine quills. But oh! how she grew into her face! By the time she was two Tali - my granddaughter - was stunningly beautiful. She still had the huge, dark eyes, but by then they were proportionate, framed by her ridiculously thick, dark eyelashes. Her long hair cascaded over her shoulders, sometimes falling over one eye, and her cheeks were always slightly flushed. She bore ...
A Centenarian Birthday Celebration

A Centenarian Birthday Celebration

Last week I had the distinct privilege of attending a centenarian birthday celebration, as my  remarkable mother-in-law, Rose Gould (see “My Mother-in-law - My Inspiration”) turned 100 years of age.  Since few people reach this milestone, it was a rare opportunity - although, having said that, I might add that my former mother-in-law lived to the age of 103, and her name was also Rose! The celebration was an incredible event – magnificently orchestrated by her granddaughter – my step daughter - Staci Gould, who (aged mid-40's) lives with Rose in a retirement community in order that Rose may continue to live ...
But Nobody Told Me

But Nobody Told Me

Telling my adult children about aging feels important to me.  My mother was 84 when she died. She never talked about what it felt like to grow old - the good, the bad and the ugly - so here I am at 67 with no road map, and much of what I have encountered has been unexpected.   Here is some of what I have learned so far: The Challenges 1. I have learned that growing old gracefully is a lofty (and for me unattainable) ideal. How can I possibly embrace the aging process with grace when the image in the ...
Reflections on the Benefits of Blogging

Reflections on the Benefits of Blogging

What Blogging Has Meant to Me By Adele Gould   As 2013 draws to a close, I reflect on the past eight months or so, since the inception of this blog, and wonder why I didn't do this years ago. Looking back I can see that I was intimidated by my lack of knowledge about blogging, and lacked the confidence to learn. To add to that, it felt a little narcissistic to be writing about myself and my life, and expecting people to read it – but I now know that there are people all over the world  - people that I don't ...
Apartheid in South Africa - My Experience as a White South African

Apartheid in South Africa – My Experience as a White South African

    My Experiences as a White South African The death of Nelson Mandela - my hero and the world’s icon - brings to the surface the deep shame I have carried with me for all of my adult life. I was once a typical white South African – privileged and spoiled – who learned by example to treat with disregard the needs and feelings of black people. Having spent 29 years living under the Apartheid regime before immigrating to Canada almost 40 years ago, it is with pain and penetrating regret that I reflect upon my experience and transgressions. In a country once ...
Lessons on Joy from a 3-year-old
Posted on February 20, 2017 by Adele Gould
She wasn't a pretty baby. She had dark, round eyes like saucers - much too big for her little face - and a full head of dark brown hair that spiked upwards and outwards - like porcupine quills. But oh! how she grew into her face! By the time she was two Tali - my granddaughter - was stunningly beautiful. She ...
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A Centenarian Birthday Celebration
Posted on June 20, 2014 by Adele Gould
Last week I had the distinct privilege of attending a centenarian birthday celebration, as my  remarkable mother-in-law, Rose Gould (see “My Mother-in-law - My Inspiration”) turned 100 years of age.  Since few people reach this milestone, it was a rare opportunity - although, having said that, I might add that my former mother-in-law lived to the age of 103, and ...
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But Nobody Told Me
Posted on May 9, 2014 by Adele Gould
Telling my adult children about aging feels important to me.  My mother was 84 when she died. She never talked about what it felt like to grow old - the good, the bad and the ugly - so here I am at 67 with no road map, and much of what I have encountered has been unexpected.   Here is ...
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Reflections on the Benefits of Blogging
Posted on December 28, 2013 by Adele Gould
What Blogging Has Meant to Me By Adele Gould   As 2013 draws to a close, I reflect on the past eight months or so, since the inception of this blog, and wonder why I didn't do this years ago. Looking back I can see that I was intimidated by my lack of knowledge about blogging, and lacked the confidence to learn. To ...
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Apartheid in South Africa - My Experience as a White South African
Posted on December 9, 2013 by Adele Gould
    My Experiences as a White South African The death of Nelson Mandela - my hero and the world’s icon - brings to the surface the deep shame I have carried with me for all of my adult life. I was once a typical white South African – privileged and spoiled – who learned by example to treat with disregard the needs ...
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21 Deep Thought Provoking Questions Part 2
Posted on December 8, 2013 by Adele Gould
A couple of months ago I wrote a post in which I elaborated on my penchant for deep, meaningful conversations (see 21 Deep Thought-provoking Questions). I chose 7 categories. posed three questions for each, and shared my own answers to each question. I was taken aback by the response to this post. In just a few weeks it was read  by over ...
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My Mother-in-Law - My Inspiration
Posted on November 27, 2013 by Adele Gould
  Why My Mother-in-Law is My Inspiration At the age of 99 my mother-in-law-continues to amaze me, and to teach me by example about aging and attitude, and about courage, grace and dignity. While it is true that she has genetics on her side, what is so admirable is how she deals with life's challenges..  As an almost-centenarian she has outlived not ...
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Low Self-Esteem is not a Life Sentence
Posted on November 10, 2013 by Adele Gould
      Can One Really Learn How to Build Confidence and Self Esteem? Is it possible to  learn how to build confidence and self esteem?   With determination and perseverance, the answer is a resounding ‘yes!’  I am living proof that having low self-esteem is not a life sentence! Symptoms of Low Self Esteem - What Does It Feel Like? For many, many years I was plagued with ...
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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
Posted on September 19, 2013 by Adele Gould
I have been living with Parkinsons for over ten years, diagnosed in my mid 50s. Despite this I lead a very full and joyful life within the parameters dictated by the disease.  But - now in my mid 60 s - I am also dealing with issues related to the aging process.  From time to time I butt heads with ...
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21 Deep Thought Provoking Questions
Posted on September 11, 2013 by Adele Gould
by Adele Gould Deep Thought Provoking Questions – So What’s the Big Deal? If there was an Association for People Who Appreciate Deep Thought Provoking Questions,  I would be a card carrying member – if not the president. I am famous (alright let’s call a spade a spade: notorious) in my circles for the way in which I engage with people when ...
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What If?
Posted on August 28, 2013 by Adele Gould
  What If? What if you still were with us today? What if you’d never been taken away? I try to envision how life would have been Without the deep longing that smolders within What if your life had not been cut short? What if you'd won the battle you fought? You'd be all grown up – now ten years old With big brown eyes, and beauty untold What if ...
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My Husband's Snoring Will Be the Death of Me!
Posted on August 20, 2013 by Adele Gould
  My Husband  Snores and I Can't  Sleep!  “TURN! OVER!!"  I beg for the third time in half an hour.  My husband snores like a banshee (not that I’ve ever heard one snore …  nor have I ever seen one). This time I leave out the‘PLEEEEZE” "What? Huh?"  he groans from somewhere in dreamland, as he shifts his position slightly. "You're SNORRRING!"  I wail, ...
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Happiness - The Search for a Quick Fix
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The Search for a Quick Fix What is happiness? What is true happiness?  Our society is obsessed with questions about happiness – what it is and how to acquire it – such that we found ourselves on a ubiquitous search for a panacea – a quick fix that will sprinkle a happy potion over our collective senses and enable us to ...
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I Hate Small Talk!
Posted on August 18, 2013 by Adele Gould
Why do I hate small talk? I’ll get straight to the point and illustrate  by way of an example. It goes something like this ‘Hello, Ma’am. How are you today?” asks the caller, whose name appears on my call display as “unavailable”.  The hairs at the back of my neck point north as I kick myself for answering, thus defeating the ...
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But I Love Him
Posted on August 17, 2013 by Adele Gould
The Excuses People Make to Stay in Abusive Relationships " … but I love him!” protests the woman whose husband has been knocking her around for the past three years  … “… but I love him!” wails the wife whose philandering spouse continues to profess his innocence, despite her proof to the contrary … “… but I still love him”  bemoans she whose ...
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