A Birthday Tribute

A Birthday Tribute

  A birthday tribute to my very dear friend Vicki Celebrating fifty years of  our close and loving friendship   "When we honestly ask ourselves which people in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.”  (Henri Nouwen) Scouring the internet for meaningful quotes which I could add to your birthday card I came across an article that inspired me to write a birthday tribute to you  on my blog,  instead of  on a greetings card. (The good thing about ...
A Priceless Gift

A Priceless Gift

Once In a While Life Comes Along with an Unexpected Gift ... a priceless gift that fills the heart with warmth and love. Over a year ago a friend and I re-united after a fallout that lasted 16 wasted and lost years. Ten days ago  she hosted  an intimate dinner that included two of her friends I had known prior to  the fallout.  Truthfully I was not looking forward to the evening because I anticipated an evening of small talk. It was anything but. Female Bonding The four of us spent the evening sharing our souls - the good, the bad and the ugly. We ...
Love and Happiness:  My Son's Wedding

Love and Happiness: My Son’s Wedding

Countdown:   One week to go.   My son Daniel is getting married on Saturday August 9th, 2014 and I am all set. He and his fiancée Teresa  (whom I adore!) arranged the entire wedding so I have nothing to do except show up. I have lost weight, have a lovely dress and my hair is looking good. For the first time in years I'm not afraid to be in photographs.   Six days to go. Setback.   I am in a store paying cash for a small item I need (which is unusual as I always use my credit card) I drop some ...
A Centenarian Birthday Celebration

A Centenarian Birthday Celebration

Last week I had the distinct privilege of attending a centenarian birthday celebration, as my  remarkable mother-in-law, Rose Gould (see “My Mother-in-law - My Inspiration”) turned 100 years of age.  Since few people reach this milestone, it was a rare opportunity - although, having said that, I might add that my former mother-in-law lived to the age of 103, and her name was also Rose! The celebration was an incredible event – magnificently orchestrated by her granddaughter – my step daughter - Staci Gould, who (aged mid-40's) lives with Rose in a retirement community in order that Rose may continue to live ...
Telling My Adult Children about Aging

Telling My Adult Children about Aging

Telling my adult children about aging feels important to me.  My mother was 84 when she died. She never talked about what it felt like to grow old - the good, the bad and the ugly - so here I am at 67 with no road map, and much of what I have encountered has been unexpected.   Here is some of what I have learned so far: The Challenges 1. I have learned that growing old gracefully is a lofty (and for me unattainable) ideal. How can I possibly embrace the aging process with grace when the image in the ...
A Birthday Tribute
Posted on March 6, 2015 by Adele Gould
  A birthday tribute to my very dear friend Vicki Celebrating fifty years of  our close and loving friendship   "When we honestly ask ourselves which people in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.”  (Henri Nouwen) Scouring ...
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A Priceless Gift
Posted on September 30, 2014 by Adele Gould
Once In a While Life Comes Along with an Unexpected Gift ... a priceless gift that fills the heart with warmth and love. Over a year ago a friend and I re-united after a fallout that lasted 16 wasted and lost years. Ten days ago  she hosted  an intimate dinner that included two of her friends I had known prior to  the ...
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Love and Happiness:  My Son's Wedding
Posted on August 17, 2014 by Adele Gould
Countdown:   One week to go.   My son Daniel is getting married on Saturday August 9th, 2014 and I am all set. He and his fiancée Teresa  (whom I adore!) arranged the entire wedding so I have nothing to do except show up. I have lost weight, have a lovely dress and my hair is looking good. For the first time ...
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A Centenarian Birthday Celebration
Posted on June 20, 2014 by Adele Gould
Last week I had the distinct privilege of attending a centenarian birthday celebration, as my  remarkable mother-in-law, Rose Gould (see “My Mother-in-law - My Inspiration”) turned 100 years of age.  Since few people reach this milestone, it was a rare opportunity - although, having said that, I might add that my former mother-in-law lived to the age of 103, and ...
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Telling My Adult Children about Aging
Posted on May 9, 2014 by Adele Gould
Telling my adult children about aging feels important to me.  My mother was 84 when she died. She never talked about what it felt like to grow old - the good, the bad and the ugly - so here I am at 67 with no road map, and much of what I have encountered has been unexpected.   Here is ...
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My Son Planned The Best Marriage Proposal Ever
Posted on January 25, 2014 by Adele Gould
The 'Best Marriage Proposal Ever' As a mother with sons of marriageable age it is my hope that my sons will choose partners whose qualities are well matched with their own, and whom I believe will add to the closeness of our family. If I could have handpicked a partner for my son Daniel I could not have found someone as ...
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Reflections on the Benefits of Blogging
Posted on December 28, 2013 by Adele Gould
What Blogging Has Meant to Me By Adele Gould   As 2013 draws to a close, I reflect on the past eight months or so, since the inception of this blog, and wonder why I didn't do this years ago. Looking back I can see that I was intimidated by my lack of knowledge about blogging, and lacked the confidence to learn. To ...
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Apartheid in South Africa - My Experience as a White South African
Posted on December 9, 2013 by Adele Gould
    My Experiences as a White South African The death of Nelson Mandela - my hero and the world’s icon - brings to the surface the deep shame I have carried with me for all of my adult life. I was once a typical white South African – privileged and spoiled – who learned by example to treat with disregard the needs ...
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21 Deep Thought Provoking Questions Part 2
Posted on December 8, 2013 by Adele Gould
A couple of months ago I wrote a post in which I elaborated on my penchant for deep, meaningful conversations (see 21 Deep Thought-provoking Questions). I chose 7 categories. posed three questions for each, and shared my own answers to each question. I was taken aback by the response to this post. In just a few weeks it was read  by over ...
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My Mother-in-Law - My Inspiration
Posted on November 27, 2013 by Adele Gould
  Why My Mother-in-Law is My Inspiration At the age of 99 my mother-in-law-continues to amaze me, and to teach me by example about aging and attitude, and about courage, grace and dignity. While it is true that she has genetics on her side, what is so admirable is how she deals with life's challenges..  As an almost-centenarian she has outlived not ...
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Living with Parkinsons Means Revisiting Grief from Time to Time
Posted on September 19, 2013 by Adele Gould
I have been living with Parkinsons for over ten years, diagnosed in my mid 50s. Despite this I lead a very full and joyful life within the parameters dictated by the disease.  But - now in my mid 60 s - I am also dealing with issues related to the aging process.  From time to time I butt heads with ...
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21 Deep Thought Provoking Questions
Posted on September 11, 2013 by Adele Gould
by Adele Gould Deep Thought Provoking Questions – So What’s the Big Deal? If there was an Association for People Who Appreciate Deep Thought Provoking Questions,  I would be a card carrying member – if not the president. I am famous (alright let’s call a spade a spade: notorious) in my circles for the way in which I engage with people when ...
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Death Anniversary Poem - My Granddaughter Would Have Been Ten
Posted on August 28, 2013 by Adele Gould
  What If? What if you still were with us today? What if you’d never been taken away? I try to envision how life would have been Without the deep longing that smolders within What if your life had not been cut short? What if you'd won the battle you fought? You'd be all grown up – now ten years old With big brown eyes, and beauty untold What if ...
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My Husband Snores - We Need Separate Bedrooms!
Posted on August 20, 2013 by Adele Gould
  My Husband  Snores and I Can't  Sleep!  “TURN! OVER!!"  I beg for the third time in half an hour.  My husband snores like a banshee (not that I’ve ever heard one snore …  nor have I ever seen one). This time I leave out the‘PLEEEEZE” "What? Huh?"  he groans from somewhere in dreamland, as he shifts his position slightly. "You're SNORRRING!"  I wail, ...
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What is Happiness?  The Search for a Quick Fix
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The Search for a Quick Fix What is happiness? What is true happiness?  Our society is obsessed with questions about happiness – what it is and how to acquire it – such that we found ourselves on a ubiquitous search for a panacea – a quick fix that will sprinkle a happy potion over our collective senses and enable us to ...
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